Im writing today because im a little peeved off at the way some people are being total douche bags with 'R U OK? day'. All over facebook people are making a bit of a joke about it & I understand thst not everyone has to have the same opinion as me because lets face it, that would suck and there would be too many people that need to shut the heck up, like me!! I am also going to admit that i can be pretty silly sometimes even a bit immature when it comes to something totally not funny, but mental illness & suicide..... NOT FUNNY!!
I had a 'friend' on my facebook write a status as 'R U STILL COMING DOWN FROM THE WEEKEND', now, if you are still 'coming down' from the drugs you took on the weekend, your a dickhead & you probably will end up with a severe mental illness because thats what drugs do to you buddy!! Also a few 'shut the fuck up with the r u ok statuses' & 'if one more person asks if im ok i wont be ok'. I wish more people would genuinely ask me if im ok and sit there and listen to me whinge about how im so alone & not coping with this whole mum thing, or how tom doesnt listen when i say take the bins out or pick up your empty beer bottles or do the dishes, or my period pain, or how i have no money or basically anything without cutting in and telling me something totally unrelated.
I probably dont ask enough or ask the right people but lately after reading a story about serious mental illness & suicide that hurts me down to my toes i have been a little more aware and trying my hardest to be patient & caring when someone has an issue that they tell me about or that i know is there but they are not ready to talk about because depression & anxiety & mental illness is serious & ugly & so so painful, not only to the person who is suffering but the people who love the sufferer (is that a word?).
So this year is the first year where i will be super aware of this cause & really give a crap about people that may be suffering & talk about it when i am struggling and i hope that one day i can help someone who is not OK to be OK.
As for now, im going to go play in my freshly mowed lawn with E girl & try not to be to cranky about the people who are having a joke about R U OK? day because last year i didnt really know much about it, I didnt joke about it but i wasnt as aware as I am today!!
I hope your all OK xoxo
Oh Mel I'm so glad you wrote this! I was feeling the same way. R U OK? Day is important and I think that the kind of people who make fun of mental illness, or the prospect of it, are the people the most afraid and most in need of a helping hand just to say: "R U OK?"
ReplyDeleteP.S. You can come to my house for a cuppa and tell me all about how you aren't ok, and if I start talking back you just need to hold up your hand and say: "No, LISTEN!"